1st August 2015

A Little Note To Say…

I don’t really know where to begin with writing this but I also think it is quite important to write about it and hopefully not be judged or frowned upon by anyone. I am currently sat in bed with a full packet of Oreo’s and a roll of tissue paper just in case this gets a little emotional. You never know this post might not be published for some time after writing it and yes that does mean I have probably edited it so many times, adding information in, removing different parts out – I don’t know but I do know that this needs to be said.


Firstly I would like to start off by saying topics mentioned in this post can be as confusing as the patterns made by clouds in the sky. They are out of my control and it is all part of growing up and learning to love who you are as a person.

When I was fifteen I fell in love with my best friend. This was a big deal for me because I never really felt emotions like these before. The only thing is my best friend was a girl and it left me extremely confused about me as a person and what I wanted in the future. She was literally like a sister to me and there were times where I could not have survived the day without hearing her voice or knowing she was ok. In all honesty I don’t really know what we were. We shared a few kisses and looking back at that time of my life, we did act like a couple when we were at home and it was just the two of us. It was nice, she made me happy and hopefully I made her just as happy. When she passed away, I felt like I couldn’t handle life anymore. I felt like I lost the most important person to me, the person I could tell everything to, my sister. Looking back at the situation now, she was rather like my girlfriend. She knew all my secrets and I knew all of hers, we were there for each other day or night. Not only did I feel lost and probably in some respect depressed by feeling low and down in myself, it also brought a lot of questions. Questions that I haven’t really thought about until I recently became single in May this year and when I have had time to sit and think about who I am as a person. About a year and a half later, I had my first ‘real‘ relationship with a boy. At the time I thought that’s it I love this person and I want to be with this person for the rest of my life – you probably know the feeling yourself. You imagine having a family with them, your own house and essentially building a future with that person. I was with him for five years, on and off, until I realised just how toxic that relationship was for me. During our ‘off’ stages I was looking at other people, mainly girls and watched many YouTube couples like Rose and Rosie and Kaelyn and Lucy. Even when we sorted our differences out I still watched them, they made me feel happy and ‘normal‘. Even after this relationship came to an end, not long after I found myself in another relationship with a boy but still had questions about my sexuality however I never voiced them to anyone or said anything. I think it’s something that I needed to come to terms with myself before being able to talk to anyone else about it. I just wanted to be clear with myself and accept myself for who I am. I always imagined that I would be with a boy and have that kind of relationship.

As Sammy from Little Fickle explains “self acceptance is hard, and maybe it’s something that comes with time, or age” and I agree with that statement. Over the past couple of weeks I have been trying to love who I am as a person and in one respect, accept myself and who I am. I don’t want to be in another relationship where I feel as though something is missing. However that doesn’t mean I don’t want to be in a relationship right now. I feel as though I am still coming to terms with the break up of my previous relationship which I think is fine, he was a big deal to me and made me feel as equally happy as how I was with Hannah, my best friend from earlier.

I have recently mentioned to one of my closest friends that I think I could be bisexual and honestly I don’t really know her opinion on this confession nor do I know whether she will remain my friend or not. For all I know she could just be thinking that this is a phase I am going through because I am feeling confused or wanting attention, which it really isn’t. I have had time to think about my sexuality and I have come to terms with myself that I am bisexual. I am attracted to boys and girls and in my opinion there shouldn’t be anything wrong with that.  Now that I have openly said it to someone, I feel as though I can be myself even though I feel like I am waiting for her to help me through this time of my life. If you are a Twitter follower of mine then you will probably have seen my recent tweets about feeling alone. Not only do I feel alone but I feel quite lost and hoping that I receive some sort of support about this situation soon because quite frankly I need a friend to help me get through this.

I am going to end this there and you are amazing if you have made it  to the end of the post – apologies for how long it is! I really needed to get this off my chest. Oh and that packet of Oreo’s has now gone.

I would love to know your tips on coming to terms with sexuality. How have you dealt with self acceptance? Have you got any tips on feeling alone? 

16 responses to “A Little Note To Say…”

  1. Imii Mace says:

    This is a really lovely read! It sounds like you’re having a bit of a tough time but I promise you it’ll work out (: You seem like a hella strong person and you’ve got this! xx

    • Yasmina says:

      I really hope your right! I just want to get through it and hopefully be okay at the other side, thank you so much for your support! :) xx

  2. Margot says:

    First of all, even though I don’t really know you, you are beautiful! Second, it doesn’t matter who you’re attracted to. Boy, girl, both, .. The only important thing is finding that one person who will make you happy. It’s probably confusing for a lot of people and also for you but it doesn’t need to be. It’s not like you need to have two relationships at the same time when you’re bisexual. You just have more options on where to look for that one person. That’s how I see it anyway. I think you’re so brave for talking about this. You don’t need to feel alone! Be proud of who you are, woman, sister, daughter, friend, blogger, lover, .. And if you ever want to talk, I’m here for you! Tweet me @aheartyhome! <3

    • Yasmina says:

      You don’t know how much that means to me! I am just so glad that its out in the open now cause I have just wanted to be myself for so long and felt as though I couldn’t. This definitely doesn’t change me as a person what so ever! I will certainly drop you a tweet some time soon :) xx

  3. oh honey, you really have had it tough. you’re also remarkably brave to openly talk about this and it just shows how strong a person you actually are. you have plenty of time to “find yourself” and i hope that you have people in your life that can help that journey. if you ever want to talk, tweet, dm, email me – anything! sending a virtual hug to you xxx

    Hannah x hannatalks

    • Yasmina says:

      I don’t feel like a strong or brave person right now but it feels so much better to have it out in the open now cause people can just like me for the true me now. It means a lot and sending you a virtual hug back :) xx

  4. Lucadonta says:

    Sending you lots of support! It’s so horrid that society makes us question ourselves so much, and challenges our self acceptance. Anyone that doesn’t like you for who you are, sure as hell doesn’t deserve your time. Love is love, regardless of gender, and that’s the most important thing :) xo

    • Yasmina says:

      Thank you so much for your support, you don’t know how much it means to me! Your right, love is love and it shouldn’t matter who it is with as long as you love the person who you are with at the time xx

  5. Jesss says:

    Well done you for sharing this lovely! I hope you’re able to accept yourself and find happiness, the right relationship is beautiful regardless of who it’s with :)

    Jess xo

  6. Martha Jane says:

    I’ll be honest, I can’t relate with anything you’re going through right now, and I can’t offer any advice, but I want to let you know that I think you’re brave, I think you’re strong, and I honestly wish you the best in finding happiness in yourself. This was such an eloquent post which I really enjoyed reading. Everything will work out <3 x

    Martha Jane | http://www.marthajanemusic.com

    • Yasmina says:

      I really hope so Martha, I just hope my friends can accept me for who I am as a person. I really do feel so alone and definitely not strong or brave but hopefully in time I will be okay xx

  7. RCagz says:

    I really wanna send so much love over the Internet over to you right now and just say that no matter what you’re going through, no matter how confused you may feel, no matter how bad things were in the past, I’m totally here as your ally with no judgement whatsoever and you are not alone <3 I really applaud your honesty here and seriously any kind of bi-exposure in the blogging community is an awesome and good thing. Much love to ya' Xx

  8. GingerbreadButtons says:

    Not being sure of your own self if so hard, but I hope you discover yourself, and learn to love yourself because that’s what you deserve.
    I personally think sexuality is fluid, you love who you love and can be attracted to anyone no matter the gender!

    As for the close friend you told, if she doesn’t want to be your friend because of your sexuality or thinks you’re “going through a phase” then she’s a shit friend and she doesn’t deserve you ;)

    Love ya chick!

    • Yasmina says:

      Thank you Libby!! I have just let her be, thank you for being so accepting. Can’t wait for our Wagamamas date later this week, a good catch up is what I need. Love ya too sweet pea! :) xx